Thank you. It's not embarrassing at all - we all have things hit differently. My dad passed two years ago and the way I have felt about that and dealt with it is different than dealing with the loss of my first dog about 6 years ago and now her son yesterday.
Thanks for the kind words. I feel like we can either dwell on the loss or be thankful for what we had; if it wasn't for what we had, there would be no loss, so I try to focus on what we had. Easier said than done but I would much rather have had all the good times and deal with the loss at the end than not have any of it at all.PleaseLockIn wrote: ↑June 18th, 2025, 10:58 amAgreed, trauma is an unpredictable thing. The unshakeable good times is what keeps us grounded, it does emotionally help! Better to confront it like this than avoid it!
Good luck with your projects and rowing! If anything, sometimes you can bounce back, look back and see how you overcame unexpected difficulties!
While the work projects have actually grown since yesterday and I will be gone for about 10 days now, I know its just a blip - as long as I'm doing something consistent and something that puts a bit of load on the body, I'll be back on the erg without really missing a beat after a session or two to clean up the technique and timing. Sometimes I think these wrinkles actually make me better overall as the erg gets a bit less stale and I am eager to attack it again.
As much as they can annoy us unintentionally, it's incredible how much you can miss that annoyance when its not there. They really are amazing little creatures.Dangerscouse wrote: ↑June 18th, 2025, 11:48 amI think Dangerspouse will be like this too, and I might surprise myself as well. I wonder if the fact that dogs are totally reliant on us, give love unconditionally, and don't intend to annoy us, make them that much more precious.
No disagreements from me here.
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It's been a wild 24 hours with a bit of a range of emotions.
When I was a sophomore in college, my roommates and I got a little 8 week old lab puppy that we were going to keep as our apartment / house dog. Clearly immature college kids who didn't think it through much as we were all athletes together on the same team...with the same practice and travel schedule. Our coach back then was pretty cool in that any time we traveled, we were allowed to take her with us provided we covered any kind of hotel costs. She traveled with our college team for a few years and frankly I can't imagine many dogs getting a similar experience.
After college, I was the only one in a position to keep her so she became mine. A couple of years after college, because we never had her spayed, I decided to breed her so I could have one of the puppies for myself - she ended up having a small litter of four; I kept one and gave the other three to family members. For a long time, it was her and her son with me and my wife, then with our oldest son. She had some health issues and ultimately had a stroke and passed when my wife was pregnant with our second son about 6 years ago now.
Our other dog, her son, went through his own little grieving process for a bit because he had never been without his mother, but he eventually came back around to being a nut like he always was. The last year or so, he came into his own health issues almost identical to his mother and based on how we found him yesterday, we assume he had a stroke as well. We took him in to his vet who confirmed and we ultimately made the choice as there was no coming back. Again, I can't imagine many dogs got the experiences he did...actually not being separated from his mom as a puppy, being part of a loving family, getting to travel a lot himself with myself, my wife, and kids, and ultimately having two boys who treated him like their third brother.
All of that said, my wife is still taking it pretty rough as I would expect. My kids are still young and seem to be pretty resilient for now. I am doing good but I also think I was a bit more mentally prepared than my wife; he wasn't in the best of health the last year or so with a more drastic decline very recently so I accepted we wouldn't have him much longer.
"Don't be sad that it's over, be glad that it happened."